Important to keep a perspective on things.
Steve says to his Dad...
"Susan and I have been dating for a couple of years, and I was wondering, how much does it cost to get married?"
"Son, I don't know. Your mother and I have been married for over 20 years, and I'm still paying."
Getting married is the only contract where you don't know the terms until the period of performance is complete. Marriage can be darned good, but being married to the wrong person is pretty rotten. Divorce doesn't end the relationship, it codifies the terms, and the terms can still be changed by either party, and backed up by court order, if they have enough money.
Odd, but when a woman uses child support sent to her for the support of children to pay a lawyer, that is just fine. If a man withholds child support and pays a lawyer, he goes to jail. One more proof that we don't have a Justice System, but rather, a Legal System.